Couples Therapy

Do You and Your Partner Struggle to Hear Each Other Out?

Is communication suffering in your relationship?

As conflict arises, do you and your partner have a hard time being vulnerable so that you can express your needs to one another?

Would you benefit from learning tools to help you stay regulated during disagreements?

Most of us were not taught how to engage in healthy conflict; rather, we were given the message that caretaking, aggression, avoidance, and withdrawal are appropriate ways to handle differences. Because of this, we are likely to brush issues under the rug—instead of resolving them—until the next big fight.

Usually, when couples seek counseling, it’s because they have entered an unsustainable cycle of conflict in which neither partner feels heard or seen, leading to a sense of disconnection and a lack of intimacy. As fears of abandonment become underground patterns, couples feel disconnected from themselves and one another. This can lead to ambivalence in the relationship, causing many couples to wonder how to get back to the spark of early courtship.

Our couples therapists will help you navigate the communication breakdown and emotional distance that leads to ambivalence and conflict.

Maybe Your Relationship Is Strong, Yet You’re Still Curious About Counseling…

On the other hand, more and more couples are recognizing the benefit of engaging in therapy before there is a crisis. Even if you believe you and your partner are in a good spot, it’s essential to have strategies in place for when conflict inevitably arises, also known as the “architecture of conflict.” Suppose you and your partner are considering taking a big step together—such as getting engaged, having children, or making a significant purchase—or you simply want to ensure you don’t enter into unhealthy communication patterns. Couples counseling can be a meaningful way to set your relationship up for success.

At Sona Collective, we have empathic, experienced therapists on our team who specialize in somatic couples work. Whether you are hoping to bolster communication, navigate cyclical issues, or increase intimacy in your relationship, our approach to couples therapy offers both of you a chance to have all of your parts heard and affirmed in your relationship.

Many of Us Aren’t Given Effective Blueprints for Navigating Interpersonal Conflict

In a perfect world, our relationships become the container in which we get to work through and resolve our early attachment wounds from childhood. Because of this, nearly every partnership has the potential to challenge and trigger each partner. It is very easy for us to project unhealed emotional injuries onto our partner—an issue made more complicated by the fact that most of us were not taught how to set boundaries and communicate our needs effectively. Whether we mimic the same unhealthy patterns that we observed in our families of origin or are influenced by the media, which normalizes unhealthy relationship behaviors, it can be scary to take real accountability for our role in an interpersonal conflict.

At the same time, we are also raised with unrealistic expectations of what a “perfect” relationship looks like in the media. Conditioned by a culture of happily-ever-after narratives, we are inclined to overlook just how much ongoing maintenance a healthy relationship requires. Therefore, instead of doing the work it takes to make our partnership thrive, we may buy into the myth that there is a better—and easier—relationship out there for us.

Though many people seek guidance via self-help books and podcasts, couples cannot typically find lasting resolutions with a one-size-fits-all approach. Our therapists customize the counseling process to the unique needs of each couple, taking into consideration specific concerns, goals, and communication styles.

At Sona Collective, Couples Therapy is an Opportunity to Build a Sturdy Foundation for a Joyful, Embodied Relationship

In the safe, nonjudgmental space of couples counseling, you will experience the transformative support of a third-party professional who will help you articulate your inner experience to your partner in a healthy, constructive way. We want to show you how to avoid cycling through the same conflict repeatedly by providing you with customized tools and psycho-education on self-soothing, co-regulation, and communication so that you can move through the “stuck” areas of your relationship.

Couples therapy at Sona Collective is available for couples of all experiences and backgrounds. Taking an affirming, culturally aware approach to counseling, we welcome multicultural/biracial couples, LGBTQIA+ couples, and those in CNM partnerships.

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Our Philosophy & Approach

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Inter-Dependence

The main goal of couples therapy is to bring you and your partner(s) to a state of equilibrium and safety. However, we have noticed that sometimes “security” can be misconstrued as homeostasis in a relationship, meaning that while there’s a sense of comfort and familiarity within the partnership, there is also a lack of eros (meaning desire or passion). We want to help you communicate your needs kindly and effectively while maintaining a loving connection, which we believe is essential for sustaining a long and healthy relationship. By shifting out of co-dependence, our couples therapists will help you foster a sense of inter-dependence and self-fulfillment fueled by your authentic desires and values.

Trauma-Informed & Relational

Our clinicians are trauma-informed relational specialists who draw from holistic, behavioral, and somatic therapeutic approaches. Using elements of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Embodied Couples Counseling™ , we will develop more awareness around the relational wounds you are trying to heal. Incorporating aspects of mindfulness, we will help you improve your communication skills so that both partners feel seen and heard in the therapy office.

Unsure if Couples Therapy is Right for You?

What if My Partner Does Not Want to Participate in Couples Therapy?

Counseling requires us to access and share our most vulnerable parts, so resistance is a natural part of the process. Fortunately, our therapists aim to create an empathetic yet objective, nonjudgmental atmosphere where couples can let their truth shine.

That said, not everyone is mentally and emotionally available for this process, so trying to “force” someone to open up and share is not effective. If you’re noticing an urge to control your partner’s responses, it might be time to focus on embodying your power toward your growth and healing. After all, waiting for someone else to change is often a painful way of avoiding doing your own work.

If you would like to start with yourself first by pursuing individual therapy, our team of somatic and trauma-focused therapists is here to help.

What if Therapy Doesn’t Work and We End Up Getting a Separation or Divorce?

The job of a couples counselor is not to force partnerships to stay together when the dynamic is no longer working, but rather to help couples foster insight and effective strategies for creating a fulfilled life. For some couples, this means finding a way to separate consciously.

Even if you and your partner ultimately decide to separate, learning to let go of the relationship with agency, compassion, and self-love is still a win.

What if My Partner and I Already Have a Solid Relationship?

If your relationship is in a good place, that’s great news! Even so, couples therapy can help you not get bogged down by unhealthy habits. The regulated and happy moments in a relationship are often the best time to develop strategies for handling conflict, creating shared goals for the future, experimenting with a more robust and fulfilling sex life, and finding sustainable practices for accessing play and joy even when life becomes challenging.

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What to Expect:

By engaging in couples counseling, you and your partner can expect to develop the following:

Non-violent communication strategies
Somatic practices for nervous system regulation and co-regulation
Compassion and mindful awareness
Meditations for enhancing intimacy
Conscious parenting skills
Erotic blueprints
Strategies for centering play/joy

At their best, relationships are vehicles for self-transformation and self-actualization. By learning to shift your mindset from one oriented around blame and resentment toward a sense of accountability and growth, your relationship can become a guide in both the high and low moments you share as a couple. With ongoing commitment and support, a stable, spacious, and connective partnership is possible.

Find Authenticity and Fulfillment—Together.

Sona Collective welcomes couples of all backgrounds and experiences to try out couples therapy where they can learn how to navigate conflict, deepen intimacy, and communicate more effectively. Book an appointment with us, check out our blog, or call (720) 909 – 3451 for more information about our couples counselors.

Couples Therapy FAQs

We accept credit, debit, and HSA cards. We will request that you provide your payment information in a secure client portal before our intake so that we can charge you upon completion of our session. We will provide an invoice each time a payment is processed and are happy to provide a Superbill upon request.
We’re an out-of-network provider, which means we do not bill your insurance company directly but can provide a receipt for the sessions you paid for called a Superbill, upon request. You can submit this to your insurance provider for any out-of-network benefits you may have and they may issue a reimbursement check. We recommend contacting your insurance company before beginning therapy to find out what your out-of-network benefits are.
We request at least 48 hours advance notice for couples therapy sessions if you wish to cancel or reschedule your session.

We typically recommend planning for a 75-minute couples therapy session, and a 90-minute intake session to get started.
$225 for a 75-minute session
$270 for a 90-minute intake session
We return inquiry emails within one business day, Monday through Friday. Inquiries received Friday late afternoon or evening are addressed on Monday. Please check your junk mail or spam folders if you have not heard from us within that time frame. Email is the best way to get in touch with us.
We are happy to provide a Good Faith Estimate for you upon request. Under the law, healthcare providers need to give patients who don’t have insurance or who are not using insurance an estimate of the bill for medical items and services.
• You have the right to receive a Good Faith Estimate for the total expected cost of any non-emergency items or services. This includes related costs like medical tests, prescription drugs, equipment, and hospital fees.
• Upon request, you can expect a Good Faith Estimate in writing at least 1 business day before your medical service or item. You can also ask for a Good Faith Estimate before you schedule a session.
• If you receive a bill that is at least $400 more than your Good Faith Estimate, you can dispute the bill.
• Make sure to save a copy or picture of your Good Faith Estimate. For questions or more information about your right to a Good Faith Estimate, visit www.cms.gov/nosurprises or call (303) 894-7499.
That’s entirely up to you! Some people thrive on accountability and targeted interventions; if that sounds like you, great! Homework is never a requirement, but we will work on building up communication and self-soothing skills in sessions together, which we encourage you to practice at home. We may recommend books, podcasts, and other resources for you to check out together to continue learning between sessions.