Transform Your Relationship with Couples Therapy in Seattle

We aren’t given a blueprint for navigating conflict.

In a perfect world, our relationships become the container in which we get to work through and resolve our early attachment wounds from childhood. Because of this, nearly every partnership has the potential to challenge and trigger each partner. It is very easy for us to project unhealed emotional injuries onto our partner—an issue made more complicated by the fact that most of us were not taught how to set boundaries and communicate our needs effectively. Whether we mimic the same unhealthy patterns that we observed in our families of origin or are influenced by the media, which normalizes unhealthy relationship behaviors, it can be scary to take real accountability for our role in an interpersonal conflict. 

At the same time, we are also raised with unrealistic expectations of what a “perfect” relationship looks like in the media. Conditioned by a culture of happily-ever-after narratives, we are inclined to overlook just how much ongoing maintenance a healthy relationship requires. Therefore, instead of doing the work it takes to make our partnership thrive, we may buy into the myth that there is a better—and easier—relationship out there for us.

Though many people seek guidance via self-help books and podcasts, couples cannot typically find lasting resolutions with a one-size-fits-all approach. Our therapists customize the counseling process to the unique needs of each couple, taking into consideration specific concerns, goals, and communication styles.

In the safe, nonjudgmental space of couples counseling, you will experience the transformative support of a third-party professional who will help you articulate your inner experience to your partner in a healthy, constructive way. We want to show you how to avoid cycling through the same conflict repeatedly by providing you with customized tools and psycho-education on self-soothing, co-regulation, and communication so that you can move through the “stuck” areas of your relationship. 

Couples therapy at Sona Collective is available for couples of all experiences and backgrounds. Taking an affirming, culturally aware approach to counseling, we welcome multicultural/biracial couples, LGBTQIA+ couples, and those in CNM partnerships.

The main goal of couples therapy is to bring you and your partner(s) to a state of equilibrium and safety. However, we have noticed that sometimes “security” can be misconstrued as homeostasis in a relationship, meaning that while there’s a sense of comfort and familiarity within the partnership, there is also a lack of eros (meaning desire or passion).

We want to help you communicate your needs kindly and effectively while maintaining a loving connection, which we believe is essential for sustaining a long and healthy relationship. By shifting out of co-dependence, our couples therapist will help you foster a sense of inter-dependence and self-fulfillment fueled by your authentic desires and values.

Our couples therapist is a trauma-informed and relational couples therapy specialist who draws from holistic and somatic therapy approaches. Using elements of Internal Family Systems (IFS), you will develop more awareness around the relational wounds you are trying to heal through your relationship. Incorporating aspects of mindfulness will help you improve your communication skills so that both of you feel seen and heard in the therapy office.